Massages are like an aphrodisiac. When done well and the details are just right it can be just the thing to flip the switch and put someone in the mood for intimacy and some sexy time. If you want to treat massages as aphrodisiacs and ignite some intimacy with your partner, you have to hone your massage skills. We can’t teach you everything about giving massages, but we can offer some tips on ways to make a massage more erotic and enticing for you and your partner(s).
Curate the mood
The key to aphrodisiacs is making sure the mood is right for them. You wouldn’t go trying to give your partner(s) chocolate covered strawberries in 100-degree weather, would you? No, so you don’t want to try and give a massage in the right setting, with the right mood. To do this you are going to want to play with lighting. Do not use the big light, the big light is the least sexiest lighting possible. By big little we mean the giant singular light that is the basic lighting fixture in most homes that is not flattering and doesn’t set a mood. If you can try dimming the lights to make it moodier or even using candles as your only source of lighting. If you have a larger room, then you will need more candles if you still want to be able to see.
Now that the ambience is handled with lighting you need to turn to music. If the goal is intimacy or sex you are going to want to put on music that encourages that. Depending on what you and your partner(s) enjoy you have a few different options in terms of music. I like non-vocal jazz if you still want to enjoy talking with your partner. If you are wanting it to feel like a serenade, then vocal jazz is a great way to go. If the plan is to move from massage to sex then I would recommend Miguel or Sade, but the options are limitless. If you and your partner already have a softer, more sensual playlist you can use that as well.
The last piece of mood setting is scent. You might be wondering why smell is important for a massage, but it’s a full body experience, including your nose. Making sure the smells are just right is just as important as the lighting and music. There are three areas of smell you are going to want to take care of: the room, the massage oil, and the sheets/bedding. The room is the largest scent, meaning it is the most encompassing, so you want something that isn’t too strong, but also isn’t so weak you don’t notice it. You could opt for a candle that is your partner(s)’ favorite scent. In terms of the sheets/bedding you should opt for something that is relaxing. You can use like a lavender mist to spray the sheets/bedding to help with relaxation which helps to make the massage even more pleasurable. Now, the massage oil is the last scent you have to worry about and that happens when you make a choice of one.
Gather your materials
The most obvious material that you need for an erotic massage is massage oil. You could use lotion, but a massage oil is much slicker and most also have scents that are more erotic and enticing for sexual activity. There are hundreds of options for massage oils, so the only thing that really matters is choosing a scent that BOTH you and your partner will enjoy. If you both love the same scent, like vanilla that is a pretty safe bet. There are also scent options that are made to encourage sex, like the Sex Magnet Pheromone Massage Oil. You can also consider massage candles, which make it so that the massage oil is warm when it is applied to the body.
Other materials you should gather are pillows and blankets and sheets to make the surface as comfortable as possible. If you are going to do the massage in the bed that is pretty easy to handle, but if you are planning to do the massage in a different setting you are most definitely going to need them.
Learn and use some techniques
Now if you aren’t a trained masseuse or massage therapist the doing of the actual massage might be a little intimidating for you, that’s okay. The great thing about erotic massages is that the goal isn’t to work every kink and knot out of your partner. You are just massaging them in a sensual way that connects y’all, arouses each other, and gets things started for more sexy activities later. To do this you are just going to want a gentle touch with a smidge of pressure. If you want to actually learn techniques for doing massages make your way to YouTube for so many different videos that can teach you. A favorite channel of ours is Massage Sloth.
You should explore the entirety of your partner(s)’ body during the massage. Starting at the feet and working your way up is a good idea, especially if your partner(s) is used to foot massages. If you want to add in some more intimacy during the massage you can sit on your partner while they are laying on their stomach to massage their back. You would just need to straddle your partner and then sit on their butt or legs, whichever is most comfortable for both of y’all.
If you want to make the massage more erotic, you can use your entire body rather than just your hands. Both you and your partner would get naked and then you would apply a generous amount of massage oil so that it is easier to slide up and down your partner(s)’ body. Using your full body to massage your partner(s) will require you to have great communication so that you can be aware of if you are putting too much of your weight onto your partner.
Using a massage to kickstart some romance can be highly intimate and bring you and your partner closer. Don’t worry about not being good at massages. Being gentle and soft and sensually touching your partner are what makes an erotic massage great, not getting the knots from the work week out. Those will work themselves out with the pleasure that is to follow.