Pegging FAQ

Pegging FAQ

Posted By Lion's Den
Pegging FAQ

Pegging FAQ

 

Within the last few years, pegging has increased dramatically in popularity. But why? And, more importantly, what is it?

 

Q: What is pegging?

A: Pegging is a term used to describe the sexual act in which a female partner penetrates a male partner anally through the use of a strap on device.

 

Q: Why would I want to try pegging?

A: Because it feels great! The anus is packed with sensitive nerve endings both in and around it to make orgasms even more intense. Men, however, are uniquely designed with a hub of sensitivity and pleasure called the prostate. This gland is located about 1-2 inches inside the anus and when massaged will open you up to a whole new world of pleasure and sensation. Some men have even reported they’ve achieved multiple orgasms from this experience.

Ladies, even though you don’t have a prostate, don’t think that pegging won’t be fun for you too! Pegging your partner can allow you to experience the joy of being able to give your partner anal pleasure and open them up to sensations they never thought possible. The physical act of penetrating or asserting a more dominate role can be a huge turn on too!

 

Q: How do I introduce pegging into the bedroom?

A: Pegging can be a sensitive topic even for some of the most adventurous couples. It all boils down to communication. Talk to your partner and ask them if they’d be open to anal play and if they would want to try pegging. If they’re not, talk about their fears or concerns and allow them time to do some research on the subject. It may help to show them videos or articles about pegging to make them more open to the idea. Here are a few to help get you started:

http://pegging101.com/
https://www.bustle.com/articles/114955-5-reasons-to-try-pegging-with-your-partner
http://pspotbook.com/pegging-and-anal-intercourse/

Q: Does anal stimulation make my male partner/me gay?

A: Absolutely not. Because there is stigma surrounding a heterosexual man being penetrated anally, many men are concerned what it may mean if they allow their partner to penetrate them. The most important thing when trying to overcome that fear is this; there is nothing wrong with being gay or bisexual. If you accept that as truth, then you will realize that it isn’t what you put in your body that makes you gay, it’s who you love.
If Anal Sex Makes You Gay, Do Tacos Make You Mexican? http://www.redheadbedhead.com/if-anal-sex-makes-you-gay/

 

Q: Both parties are on board. How do we get started?

A: Start small. Something little like a well lubricated finger into the butt during oral or a small plug is good way to introduce them to the sensation of anal stimulation. Make sure you’re checking in with you partner as you play to make sure things feel okay or if they’d like more or less stimulation. Once you and your partner feels comfortable with smaller toys, you can graduate to some of the larger dongs typically used in harnesses. Also check out the educational videos below for information about preparation and anal sex:

Butthole Maintenance: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=riLLOsKnH3M
Anal Sex Prep: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0p84az86DfM
Anal Sex: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sp9MT1di9as&has_verified=1

 

Q: What is the best position for pegging?

A: If you’re wanting deep prostate stimulation, you can’t go wrong with your partner on his back in a missionary position. You can also try a doggy style position at the edge of the bed. This will remove some of the high difference and allow the female partner more control over insertion. Feel free to experiment with different positions to see what feels best for both of you. Remember, use of position pillows or sex swings can really open to door to some mind-blowing playtime.

Five positions for pegging: http://pspotbook.com/five-great-positions-pegging/

 

Q: Being a female top isn’t really doing anything for me physically. What can I do to enjoy it more?

A: While many women enjoy the physical act of penetrating their partner, they may not always receive the same kind of sexual gratification they’re used to experiencing. If you find this is the case, try a harness with a pocket for a small vibrator. If that’s not doing it for you, try using a remote control panty vibe. This kind of toy will be more customizable and can give your partner an opportunity to tease you while you play.

You may also want to consider a strapless strap on. These toys are inserted into the vagina with the phallus protruding out from it. See the diagram below:

 

 

Fetish Fantasy Elite by Pipedream
Fetish Fantasy Elite by Pipedream

 

Q: The harness I bought isn’t comfortable. What do I do?

A: Unfortunately, not all harnesses are created equal. If you find the straps are rubbing in uncomfortable places, try adding some fabric (like a pair of underwear) or re-adjusting the straps to a place that’s more comfortable for you.

In the end, you may need to purchase a more comfortable harness. Keep in mind what you like and dislike about your current harness to help guide you in search of a new one.

 

Pegging is an exciting and new way to explore the sexual connection between you and your partner. Take things slow, don’t be disappointed if it doesn’t go perfectly your first time, and always make sure to communicate. Have fun!

 

Additional resources:

The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: http://pspotbook.com/

The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Strap-On Sex: https://goo.gl/V6tu92

 
Carolyn Jackson
6 years ago at 4:59 PM
Thank you
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K C
6 years ago at 11:10 AM
Interesting. However, where does one find a lady interested in pegging a man?
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