As we’ve discussed in previous blog posts, anal play can be a thrilling experience enjoyed by anyone. We’ve also discussed how intimidating it can be. It goes without saying that anything anal is considered a taboo by many, but that’s part of the fun. 

If you’re curious about anal play, but aren’t sure how to go about it or if its for you, keep reading to learn more about the world of anal. 

What is Anal Play?

Anal play spans from fingering to pegging. Smart Sex Resources defines anal play as both external stimulation of the anus and penetrative play. You can do this orally, digitally (with fingers), or with a penis or with a toy. It’s whatever kind of stimulation you or your partner likes. 

It can be the opening act or the main event depending on what you like and what you want. Anal play can be performed by yourself to amazing effect, or with a partner as a way to spice things up. 

Who Can Enjoy Anal Play?

Everyone!

If you have an anus, you have the tools to engage in anal play. It is enjoyed by people of all genders and sexualities. And while you personally may or may not enjoy anal play, it can be enjoyed by anyone. It all comes down to what you like. 

For those who have a vulva, anal sex not only activates the deeply-rooted nerves around the anus, but it can also indirectly stimulate the a-spot, g-spot, and clitoris. 

For penis owners of any sexuality, anal play can be especially pleasurable because of the prostate. This small, chestnut-sized rubbery organ is responsible for creating seminal fluid and maintaining healthy erections. The prostate is also a powerful erogenous zone that when stimulated can result in powerful orgasms. It can be accessed fairly easily via the anus, making it a great benefit of anal play if you’re someone who has a prostate. 

Image courtesy of the National Institutes of Health (NIH)

It also bears repeating that if you have a prostate and like being the receiver of anal play, that does not make you gay. You are entitled to enjoy any kind of sexual activity that appeals to you physically or emotionally. 

Smart Sex Resources reports that “people of all sexual orientations and gender identities can explore giving and receiving anal play. The anal region is rich with nerve endings, so stimulation in this area can feel good.” It’s as simple as a pleasure preference. Anal is a great way to directly stimulate the prostate as well as the nerve-rich anterior fornix and clitoris. It holds a huge potential for pleasure for everyone who wants to try it. 

Sexuality is deeply personal, and also customizable. All the different types of sex are meant to serve you, rather than just be a predetermined series of acts to perform. Do what feels good, feels right for you. It’s all about pleasure. 

Why Try Anal Play?

This is a case where “because” is a perfectly good reason to try something new. Variety is the spice of life, and anal play is almost garunteed to spice up your sex life. Try it to add a  Anal play is a little variety into your routine. It’s becoming more common, but it still has the air of being taboo, like forbidden fruit. The psychological appeal might add to the physical appeal for you or your partner. The brain is a key part of sexual arousal, so feelings you might have about anal play could potentially add to the appeal. 

It’s a great way to experiment with your body. If you’re a novice at anal play, you’re about to tap into a previously unexplored pleasure center. The entire anal area is chock-full of nerves that will give you plenty of satisfaction, and might even result in an orgasm. Experimenting with different kinds of stimulation and sources of pleasure will help build your sexual repertoire. 

Some reasons, among others, to try anal play are spicing things up as a way to build intimacy. As it involves one of the most delicate parts of the body, anal play requires an increased level of intimacy and trust in your partner if you are the receiver. If you are the performer, anal play requires more precision and self control than other forms of sexual play. If you’re playing with a partner, you must place a lot of trust in them, and in turn your partner must be careful. It can be very fun, but it can also be a uniquely personal experience. 

Anal play is also a great canvas for any dominant/submission play you might like to explore. In the same way it requires a lot of trust between partners, it also creates a distinctive power dynamic. If this is a fantasy of yours, the very nature of anal play might lend itself perfectly to any power play scenario between you and your partner. 

Where to Start?

Start out slow. It might take some time before the anal ring will stretch enough to accomodate any kind of activity. Also, bear in mind that the anus does not produce its own lubricant so you’ll need to provide that on your own. The System JO H2O Anal Lubricant is specially designed for anal play. Water based lubricants are the best option for anal play, and this option from System JO will ensure that any kind of anal play is silky smooth. 

Fingering or oral are great ways to start. This kind of play is minimally invasive for those who don’t want too much pressure on or in the anus. If this is something you’re interested in (or if you plan on doing any kind of anal play), use lots and lots of lube. The more the merrier!

Butt plugs can be a great starter for anal play, or great in general if that’s as far as you’d like to go. Butt plugs are perfect for penetration play as well as helping to stretch out the anus, either just for the sensation of having something inserted or as prep for later. 

We recommend the Backdoor Adventure 3 Piece Butt Plug Kit. This kit has butt plugs of three different sizes so it’s accommodating to beginners and veterans alike, as well as those who want to build their personal stamina. They also come with a remote controlled vibrating feature to intensify the pleasure factor. 

Depending on who wants to be penetrated by their partner, the use of a toy might be required. If you need some assistance pegging your partner, a strapon might be an ideal tool. We recommend something like the Happy Rabbit Strapless Strapon, which has an attachment to penetrate your partner as well as attachments to stimulate you and your clit. 

However you decide to play, remember that consent is key. Go over your partner’s and your own hard and soft limits before you try anything anal. Proceed with caution, and know that you can stop any time. Anal play might be uncomfortable at first, but it should never be painful. 

If you are experiencing any kind of acute pain or notice any signs of trauma such as bleeding, seek medical care immediately.