Being apart from your partner(s) can be difficult. Apart from missing out on dates, late night cuddles, and every other moment you cherish, that desire for sexual stimulation doesn’t go away. Mutual masturbation is a powerful tool for stimulation within a relationship, not only in person, but also with long distance! But how can mutual masturbation be sexy and just as stimulating without being right there with your partner? 

Voice or Video Calls!

Sometimes all you need to feel that intimacy you crave with a partner is their soothing voice on the other end of the line. Utilizing mutual masturbation while talking on the phone can bring you to notice even the slightest reactions you may not pick up before. Hearing their breathing change as they stimulate themselves or maybe the little moans you don’t think about in the moment can be heightened by the inability to see them, similarly to a blindfold. When in a video call, you may gain sight, but muting yourself or your partner and forcing them to strictly view or be silenced can also be a powerful tool to utilize. And that leads to...

Power Exchange Play!

Power exchange is a common practice within the kink and BDSM community where one person has a more authoritative role over their partner. This doesn’t need to be done in a way that is extreme or demeaning of your partner, but can be simple and sexy. In fact, it doesn’t need to include masturbation or direct genital stimulation at all! Requesting your partner to wear a specific outfit that day or suggesting that they treat themselves for all the hard work they’ve done when you know they deserve a break. In more direct cases, consensually instructing your partner to touch themselves in a specific way while in a private and more intimate setting can add an additional layer to phone sex while making it more personal as well. Especially while hearing it in their voice, with your eyes closed, it could even trick your mind into thinking they are actually the ones doing it themselves!

Remote Couple’s Toys!

Toy companies keep pushing for new innovative ways to impress their customers, and one of the latest trends with wireless toys is the inclusion of apps that can be used in place of a remote. These apps often utilize bluetooth to directly connect to the device, then use wifi or LTE to connect to your partner’s phone, even from around the world! This means that no matter the time of day or distance, you can directly control the stimulation your partner feels when using these products. With brands like Svakom, WeVibe, and many others leading the charge to make pleasure more accessible and discreet, trying this type of play with a partner is becoming easier and easier. You can use it to tease over a long period of time or to help achieve a quick orgasm with a wide variety of styles like prostate massagers, internal vibrators, cock rings and more. Many of these apps also allow for direct message capabilities as well as video calling through the app itself, making it easy to utilize those methods at the same time. This is one of the best ways to directly stimulate your partner over long distances!

As hard as distance can be with a partner, there are plenty of ways to still interact with them in an intimate setting. With toys, other means of contact, and consensually playing with each other's thoughts, you won’t have to be truly alone when exploring your sexual needs. Mutual masturbation might be the method for you, but remember, you don’t need to have a partner to enjoy all of the pleasures that masturbation can help you discover!